Jus wanted to say 'A BIG THANK YOU.....' :-)

In our lives we come across individuals from different walks of life, different backgrounds, different languages, different characters, different principles and values. Some impress us with their behaviour, while some don’t. Some influence us, while some just don’t seem to have any effect on us. Some are meant to stay, while some are meant only for a season to be washed away by the wave of time. Some can build the character, while some can destroy the individual in you. Some are trustworthy, while some are crooked.

Friends play an important role in one’s life, by encouraging, motivating, moulding, loving, understanding, caring, and supporting the individual. Words cannot express this relationship that friends share because it’s special. There are innumerable quotes about friendship and the best one is found in Proverbs 18:24 which say “There is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” A friend is someone with whom you can be yourself. Your top secrets are shared without the faintest doubt that your friend would announce it to the rest of the world. A friend is your mirror when you need it. And guess that’s why someone had written “Tell me who your friend is and I will tell you, who you are”.


Not all acquaintances would be called special because it’s only those few special friends whom you hold close to your heart. No matter what they do, you promise to stick by them to the very end. They are that someone who is always true to his/her word. Someone who has assured that he/she won’t turn from you and on whom you have put your faith in. He/she will never let you down. “A really close friendship doesn’t happen only of happiness...It travels a long way through misunderstandings, stupid fights, teasings, hesitations, consoling words, and more....Takes time to build the kind of trust and respect which makes friendship an everlasting one...”

There was this really short period (just 2 weeks) in my life when there were few things that took an unexpected turn and left me completely stranded. I was left all alone with absolutely no friend to confide to. Or at least I THOUGHT I WAS ALL ALONE. Coz the ones whom I was close to were mad at me, the other few I knew were ignoring me (or I thought they were coz they never answered my calls) and another few I myself was ignoring out of the fear that I might hurt them like the way I unknowingly hurt few individuals. I was in this muddle of doubts, diffidence and insecurity. This experience indeed left a scar on me that, I still find it so difficult to completely trust any person, out of the fear that when you give them the space, they can get so close to you, make you dependant on them, and suddenly leave you unexpectedly all alone with all your promises of friendship shattered.

But I sure should thank all these friends for having left me alone all at the same time; coz it was because of them I renewed or rather rejuvenated my relationship with a true friend - Jesus Christ. It was because of that particular situation I had a closer walk with Him and realised that I had missed confiding even the little things to this ‘bestest’ friend all these days. When I was lonely, He filled me with His presence. I sure know He was there listening to all my silly mumbles. Whenever I cried by myself, He filled me with His peace. I know I’ve done so many things that would have upset Him but He has a forgiving heart and a forgetting mind. He has drawn me closer to Him than before, caressing me and encouraging me whenever I needed it. He has been there whenever I needed Him. I don’t have the problem of un-answered calls or no sms, coz I know I just need to talk to Him whenever I want to and He always listens to me. This situation has made me a tougher person and yet it’s humbled me to realise that I’m just a sinner who has found grace in the Lord’s eyes. I’m privileged to be chosen as His friend. I’ve never experienced this before but it sure was special and I know this friendship with my Saviour for sure will last forever.

I’d like to now tell those individuals who were part of this particular short period that I’m sorry when I hurt you, but I do know I never meant to do so. It was all meant to be, as a part of God’s perfect plan. If you ignored me, if you were hurt because of me, if I ignored you and thus hurt you, if you were forced to say goodbye to me or I said it to you, I’m helpless at this point coz all I know is that He made it happen so that I could know Him better. At this juncture I’m reminded of this song...
” Packing up the dreams God planted
In the fertile soil of you
Can’t believe the hopes He’s granted
Means a chapter in your life is through
But we’ll keep you close as always
It won’t even seem you’ve gone
cause our hearts in big and small ways
Will keep the love that keeps us strong.

And friends are friends forever
If the Lord’s the Lord of them
And a friend will not say never
cause the welcome will not end
Though it’s hard to let you go
In the Fathers hands we know
That a lifetimes not too long to live as friends.”


“God works through different people in different ways, but it is the same God who achieves His purpose through them all.”- 1 Corinthians 12:6. I thank all of you for being there and being a blessing in my life in whatever ways you had to be.

I really don’t know why I’m writing this blog but I’m just listening to the voice inside that’s asked me to do this. I’d like to end this blog by saying the exact words which was told to me once by one special friend, “Sweet Friend, I’m with you in whatever you do. Don’t know why I pulled this conversation. Love you so much. God bless you. Have a nice day!!!”

Do you want to be a Milk Kova???

5:30 AM 6th May, 2008

Waking up after after hitting the snooze button in my mobile for the tenth time, it was high time to push myself out of my cozy bed. Crawling outside, I went straight to the kitchen to make myself my cup of hot coffee. After the water boiled, I poured that hot water into the coffee filter filled with sweet smelling coffee powder(oh…how much I love to have a filter coffee early every morning!!!). Next I opened the fridge and took out 1 litre of Aavin milk, poured that into a milk pan (which I had washed with drinking water coz I didn’t want the milk to get spoilt). After nearly 5 minutes, I heard that thing which I didn’t want to hear that morning……that peculiar sound that comes when the milk gets spoilt. Man!!! I had to open up yet another milk packet and boil that in another carefully cleaned milk vessel, hoping that this one wouldn’t get spoilt like the previous one. Yet again, I heard that same dreadful sound and big lumps were found in that vessel. Sigh!!! I had to open the last packet of milk that was left in the fridge; with fingers crossed I allowed it to boil and went to play my favorite CD in the music player. This time the milk split even before I could even get near the stove!!!!!

I was so upset for various reasons. One was because I had used up all the milk vessels that were used for boiling milk. Two, I took special care to clean them. Three, there was no milk left. Four, I was afraid my mom would get upset because I finished all the milk that was rationed for the day. And there were many other such reasons. But above all these reasons, there was one sense of doubt that filled my heart. What did I do wrong today? I followed the same exact procedure that I followed every other morning and yet how could this thing ever happen?

Just when these thoughts were filling my mind I heard yet another sound that I dreaded at that particular moment. The door of my parent’s bedroom close carefully. Which meant - my mom was coming out of her room taking extra care not to wake up daddy. I was preparing myself for all the shelling that mom would shower at me for spoiling 3 litres of milk that morning. Just as she entered the kitchen, I imagining and expecting my mom to turn out into a Dracula and roar her lungs out….actually flopped!!! She just greeted me with her beautiful smile and said “That’s ok! Milk got spoilt. So what? We’ll have black coffee for today!!!” In spite of her trying to be nice to me, I still felt guilty for spoiling all that milk. That’s when she told me that the reason why the milk had got spoilt wasn’t my fault but it was the fault of the really hot summer weather. Mr. Hot Summer had spread its waves and infected that clean milk.

That’s when something struck my mind. A perfect analogy!!! I would like to associate ourselves with that milk. Just like how the milk is pure without any blemish so are we pure when we were created by our Heavenly Maker. He took extra trouble to place us in the right place (clean vessel). He ensured that we had the right kind of situations (right flames on the stove) around us in order to make us presentable (milk ready to drink!!). But we allow an external force (Mr. Hot Summer) to affect our true purpose of living. That external force might be in the form of friends. This Mr. Hot Summer might enter our lives uninvited and sometimes we believe that he would never harm us. But little do we know that we tend to get influenced slowly, unconsciously, involuntarily by this attractive Mr. Hot Summer!!! Just when we think we are enjoying ourselves with the best things around us, this Mr. Hot Summer leaves us unexpected with a mark of disgrace, shame, hurt, despair and a sense of utter failure. I guess that’s why our parents advice us to take time to choose good friends who would never harm us in any way and make us lose our true identity.

“Now don’t you worry lets clear this mess up!!!” SNAP….I had got back to reality and realized that my mom was talking to me all this while and getting ready to do something with that spoilt milk. I laughed over it and said what you could possibly do with the supposedly spoilt milk apart from just throw it down the drain?? Instead my mom started pulling out ingredients to make something out of the spoilt milk. She added all those ingredients and continuously kept stirring the spoilt milk. She didn’t leave it unstirred even for a second. As time passed by, the milk that initially appeared to have been spoilt turned out to be thicker and transformed into a delicious dessert called Milk Kova.

Similarly, many a times you might be completely broken down because a friend ditched you. Or maybe a friend taught you all the bad habits that has engulfed you and you believe you can never be set free from the bondage of those bad habits.
My dear friends are you lost and left lonely? Feeling dejected and heart broken? Has any friend left you scarred with an un-repairable damage? Do you think you are empty and useless? Do you blame yourself for all the things happening around you?? Are you scared to face your loved ones because of your faults??

Everyone has weaknesses. We might be a bundle of flaws and imperfections: emotional, physical, intellectual and spiritual. But our God wants you just as you are to use you for His glory. Just remember that if you want your life to be transformed from bitterness to sweetness you just need to surrender your life into the hands of Your Maker. He might have brought in people into your life who might have left you devastated but He is always in control of your life. When situations around you seem to stir you inside out, always trust the hand that is stirring your life. When everything around you keeps going round and round leaving you dizzy and confused, remember that Jesus has every power to convert that mess into something useful and thus bring in a purpose into your life. The bible says, “If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.”

Are you ready??

Do you want to be like that spoilt Milk that was submissive to its maker’s hands and be transformed into something tasty like the Milk kova? Or do you want to remain the rest of your life like the spoilt milk which stinks and is useless? Are you willing to let God be your ultimate security? The decision is yours. Never forget that Jesus is there with arms opened wide to embrace you; love you in spite of all your faults. Jesus said, “Come to me, all you who are troubled and weighted down with care, and I will give you rest.” Allow Him to transform your sorrows into joy.

What do I write????

One of my friends had been pestering me to start up my own blog in order to be able to express my thoughts and ideas with others. Being really new to this type of medium, it took me quiet sometime to convince myself to actually get started with this...


But now that I’ve made up my mind, I took the effort to get myself a little accustomed to this blogsite. After registering and having taken care of the initial details, I jus sat quietly pondering on what exactly I need to write. I wanted my first blog to be really appealing and interesting, something that would catch the attention of the readers and help them to relate to what I’m trying to express.


After much thought and time spent to come up with a good topic, I realized that the best would be to share what I had learnt few days back…a topic that every human could relate to…some point of time in his/her life. And that would be none other than LOVE….that thing which makes many many humans go crazy!! bonkers!! head over heals!!


Few days back a friend of mine had got back to me and pinged me about his new found love….the love of his life…and how excited he was that he had found the right gal. Though I dint speak to him, the joy and love was evident even in that chat window. He wanted me to call her and inform her about how much he missed her and that since he was at office somewhere in another country, he couldn’t call and the distance was killing him. He was longing to hear her voice just to tell her or rather to even hear from her how much she had loved him in return. The passion, the fire, the deep emotions was just bubbling over. It was obvious that this tiny feeling that had creeped into him uninvited had left him joyous with no bounds. He jus couldn’t keep it to himself and wanted to share it with everyone he knew.


I’m sure jus like this friend of mine, there might be many out there who would have experienced this feeling of being elated to the top of this world. Emotions that they themselves aren’t aware off....the eye to eye contact….romantic looks...sleepless nights, long…I mean really long conversations without even bothering to even drink a glass of water to quench that thirst…timely ‘good mornings’, ‘good afternoon’ and ‘good night’ sms or calls….and another thing…BLIND TRUST. No matter what others say about him or her, they continue to love their lover blindly jus because they trust the promise the other would have made to them. They would even risk going out alone far away just as long as they could spend time alone with their lover. They take efforts to go on and on impressing him/her and also to stay committed to their partner.


There is this person who loves me in spite of who I am though I really don’t deserve it one bit. He always wishes the best for me. He’d go an extra mile jus to see me smile. He’s given me the most beautiful gifts that anyone could ever dream off. He tells me those sweet soothing words every time I talk to him. He’s sacrificed so much just to keep me happy. But at times I don’t quiet reciprocate it to Him. Many times I don’t keep up to the promise of talking to him or spending time with him which he rightly deserves. I’ve never offered Him any kind of gifts nor do I care to even wish him a ‘good morning’ or a ‘good night’!!! He’s done things that I least expected. He gave up something really important to Him….and that was His own life. Ask him why he did that, He points His finger back to me and says “I did this for you just because… I LOVE YOU!!”. I can bet with anyone in this world, that the love that I’ve found in my lover is the truest when compared to the other lovers. I’d like to introduce you reader to my lover…the one who has captured my heart….Jesus.


Jesus came to this world for you and me. He gave up His life so that we can have life. He loves us unconditionally. If loads of attention could be given to an earthly human lover…how much more shud be given to a person who loves u unconditionally??? Have you spent that extra hour in a conversation with Him or decided to sleep? Have you gone that extra mile to share the love that you’ve found in Him with others? Or do you prefer to say that you do not have the time and that you’re too busy?? Do you hesitate to introduce this lover Jesus to your friends?? Every act of yours hurts Him but that doesn’t stop Him from continuing to love you. We love Him because He first loved us. So what’s holding you back? Now is the time…go tell it to the world that Jesus Christ loves you and you too love Him. Try your best to spend enough time with your lover Jesus and build up that personal relationship with Him. Try Him. It makes all the difference!!